The Role of Lovemaking Styles in Predicting Emotional Divorce of women with marital conflict

Document Type : practical

Authors

1 Master student of Psychology Department, Naein Branch, Islamic Azad University, Naein, Iran

2 Assistant Professor, Department of Psychology, Naein Branch, Islamic Azad University, Naein , Iran

Abstract

Emotional divorce is one of the effective variables in couples’ relationships that is affected by various factors. This study was conducted with the aim to determine the contribution of lovemaking styles in predicting emotional divorce in women with marital conflict referred to counseling centers in Ahvaz. The research method was applied and correlational type. The statistical population was all couples who referred to clinics in Ahvaz in 2020. Sampling method was purposive convenience and 210 women with marital conflict were selected as sample size and they answered the questionnaires of Emotional Divorce Scale (Gottman) and Love Styles Questionnaire (Hendrik & Hendrik). Data analysis was performed at both descriptive and inferential levels by SPSS-22 software. The results showed that Eros (romance), Ludus (conquest) and Mania (obsession) love styles play a positive role, and Pragma (practicality), Storge (friendship) and Agape (selflessness) love styles play a negative role in predicting the emotional divorce variable. In general, it can be said that spouses 'awareness of their love beliefs is the beginning of resolving couples' conflicts, and such knowledge leads to recognize the destructive and constructive dimensions of relationships between spouses and couples modify their attitudes about love and prevent emotional divorce by recognizing these elements.

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