The effectiveness of teaching patience and forgiveness based on Islamic teachings on emotional management of married women

Document Type : practical

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1 PhD Student Psychology, Department of Psychology, Sanandaj Branch, Islamic Azad University, Sanandaj, Iran

2 Professor, Department of Counseling, University of Kurdistan, Kurdistan, Iran

3 Ph.D. in Psychology, professor, full professor, Department of Psychology, Shahid Chamran University of Ahvaz, Ahvaz, Iran

Abstract

The evidence shows that couples in modern societies face many problems in establishing intimate relationships and understanding the feelings of their partners. To this end, using a quantitative and quasi-experimental design, the present study sought to examine the effectiveness of forgiveness and patience training based on Islamic instructions on marital conflicts and the emotional management of married women. The participants were selected from women with marital conflict who visited counseling centers in Qom. A total of 20 married women were selected using convenience sampling and randomly placed in two intervention and control groups. The data were collected using the Marital Conflict Questionnaire (MCQ) and Cognitive Emotion Regulation Questionnaire (CERQ). The collected data were analyzed via analysis of covariance (ANCOVA). The ANCOVA results showed that the forgiveness and patience therapy model was effective in marital conflicts and emotional management, reducing marital conflicts and improving emotion regulation of the women in the intervention group. Indeed, practicing forgiveness and patience based on Islamic instructions enables a person to accept responsibility for her actions in conflicts and forgive her partner whenever necessary. Accordingly, family counselors and therapists can organize and hold psychological therapy interventions and courses based on Islamic instructions and use the model developed in this study to contribute to resolving marital conflicts and improving marital life in couples.

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Biannual Journal of Applied Counseling
Volume 13, Issue 2
January 2024
Pages 43-62

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  • Receive Date: 29 November 2023
  • Revise Date: 29 December 2023
  • Accept Date: 10 February 2024

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